Five months ago, I read The Pretty One by Keah Brown. Her first-person account of living with cerebral palsy. How because she couldn’t walk fast crossing the street drivers in cars honked their horns at her.
One part of the memoir stood out to me. Kean Brown exposed the insanity of how able-bodied people rush-rush-rush places every day filling their lives with nonstop activities.
This week I decided to conserve my energy for doing only the things essential to maintaining my well-being.
This daily living habit I term the “one day one job” approach.
Even when I’m not at my job I consider the tasks I need to do “jobs.”
My one job might be posting this blog entry. Or doing the workout routine.
I’ve learned this life lesson about not taking on herculean tasks that derail my focus and energy.
It’s precisely because living with a disability gives us challenges that we are uniquely qualified to “opt out” of the busywork insanity.
Without feeling shame or regret for not living up to these impossible demands that the majority of Americans make on themselves.
I say let people who have a vested interest in living under the cover of what’s “normal” burn themselves out running around without stopping every day.
Easily 12 years ago I read a book by Leo Babauta. In it he talked about limiting the focus of your life to your “5 Commitments.”
My 5 passions are art music fashion books and exercise.
One other tactic I adopted is to KISS–Keep It Simple Sweetheart.
In 2003 I wrote in an online article: “If it doesn’t fit, I won’t commit.”
We have all the time we need to get done everything we need to do.
Taking the time to do what’s integral to our health and happiness. Discarding the things that numb us or distract us or divert our attention from our 5 commitments.
This is something to think about:
Daring to let go of the busywork.
Risking “missing out” when attending those events would not add benefit to our life.
Taking joy in being present and centered on the things we choose to do.