Disarming Dastardly Dan

Now a female coworker can be rude and hostile too.

The person I’ve interacted with on the job was a Dastardly Dan because they have been men.

At one job I simply walked out of the room when the coworker was in the room at the same time.

Luckily I was able to do this.

Sometimes I left the building and walked to a nearby coffee shop to meet an unemployed friend for a hot chocolate.

In most situations at work involving a rude and hostile coworker you won’t be able to bolt at will.

This is where I think beating them at their own game is critical.

Flatter them have conversations with them and try to disarm them.

Whether intentionally or not they’re trying to get a rise out of you to exert control.

When they see you’re not taking their bait this will frustrate them. They might discover it’s not worth their while to continue their behavior.

In the 1990s I worked for a jerk. Leaving that job I went from the frying pan into the fire of another job where I was laid off only three weeks later.

This is why I make the case for investigating non-corporate office jobs and careers that attract people who want to make a difference.

The bottom line is: get an office job should your personality be suited to working in an office. Should you want to work in an office that’s your right.

I work in a library and that’s where I encountered Dastardly Dan.

Rude and hostile coworkers exist everywhere.

Yet you have tactics for managing them. See if anything I’ve written here makes sense.

Author: Chris Bruni

Christina Bruni is the author of the critically acclaimed memoir Left of the Dial. She contributed a chapter "Recovery is Within Reach" to Benessere Psicologico: Contemporary Thought on Italian American Mental Health. As well as an author and activist, Bruni is an artist and athlete.

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